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Focusing On The Good Instead Of The Bad

Unfortunately 2016 has been a bad year for a lot of people all over the world. I could very, very easily look back on this past year and describe it as the worst year of my life. I’ve struggled with unemployment, depression, anxiety and being 400 miles away from friends and family. There’s been a lot of down days, a lot of self doubt, and too many times where I almost didn’t make it to the next day. And yet, here I am.

Dwelling on the past can makes me overthink about every single bad day and even every single “mistake” I’ve ever made.ย To stop the auto-play script in my mind telling me how much I haven’t achieved this year, I try to think about the things I have done and the things I have to look forward to. Even if they don’t seem like much, they are still something to celebrate and pat myself on the back for.

I’ve dived into my hobbies

I think that I have read the most books this year than any year previously, not counting years at primary school when I was learning to read (because those books were 8 pages/sentences long). I’ve re-read the Harry Potter booksย and found some new favourites. I’ve also got back into using my bullet journal (blog post about that coming soon) where I have let my creativity go by painting, drawing, doodling and writing whenever I feel the need. I truly believe that these two hobbies have helped with me get through this year.

My SO continues to make me deliriously happy

We met August 2015 and decided to move in (and away) together in November of the same year. We then packed up our stuff and began our lives in Edinburgh in February 2016. We’ve spent almost every hour with each other since then, and not once have either of us regretted it. It may be a cliche but I honestly cannot imagine my life without him.

I have met some wonderful people online

This year I have embraced the blogger community more than ever and through that have (virtually) met some truly lovely people. They have become a support system to me and I hope that they see me in the same light. I look forward to hopefully meeting them all in reality (so to speak) and can’t wait to make even more online friends.

I’ve kept on trying

There’s been too many moment this year when I just wanted to end it all. I didn’t see the point of trying anymore. I didn’t see any value in myself or my life. Thankfully I got through those moments by seeking help from the many wonderful people in my life. I still have big dreams and am still trying to figure out how I’m going to get there. I celebrate each little victory in order to keep the motivation and momentum going.

What were the best things about 2016 for you? What are you looking forward to most for 2017? Let me know in the comments below!

4 Comments

  1. Ksenia

    Lauren!!! Hello from 2017! Yes, we made it, despite it all ๐Ÿ™‚

    I loved this post. I feel exactly the same so it resonated a lot.

    I’ve decided to stopping trying to chase X / Y / Z because that’s what GOING TO make me happy and be happy with what I already have, so I loved your focus on the things that made 2016 good. It’s those things that end up filling up most of our waking hours and minutes anyway, so I’m not sure how I ever got caught up in spending 80% of my time thinking about everything I wish could be different (i.e. ‘better’!)

    I hope the things that already make you happy keep giving in 2017 and through them you find yourself set up to explore new things too!

    Lots of love
    K

    1. Lauren

      Thanks Ksenia! I’m super glad that you liked the post ๐Ÿ™‚ Perhaps we should do another collaboration post sometime soon?
      Hope you had a lovely New Year and I am looking forward to hearing all about your adventures in California! x

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