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How To Be Cool

I was not the coolest kid during primary nor secondary school. I tried my very best to always fit in, which I think made me stick out even more. Trying to be like the girls I was friends with never really suited me and I always felt like a bit of an outsider. This insecurity I had was eventually preyed upon, which though it was horrible at the time, made me learn a thing or two about friendships.

Being cool is about who you are rather than what you’re wearing. When you’re younger, you look at the cool kidsΒ and though you might wish you had those new trainers too, what you really wanted was the trail of friends following them around. You wanted (and still want) to be liked and accepted.

So, to get from wannabe status to wow-I-want-that-girl-to-be-my-BFF (not that I’m quite there yet), here are some things I have learned about what it really means to be cool.

Be kind

Kindness is underrated. Random acts of kindness can go a long way, not only making somebody’s day but somebody’s week. You can be kind in a million little ways, whether it’s by offering to help an older person in the supermarket reach the higher shelves, supporting your friends and peers however you can, or by simply being friendly to strangers that you meet. Kind actions are memorable and they will always be cool.

Be weird

Be your true weird self. Your quirks are what make you a little different, so don’t be embarrassed or ashamed to share them with the world. They are what make you different and what make you interesting. They make you you.

Be open-minded

There’s nothing more uncool than being judgemental about somebody, whether it’s about their appearance or their lifestyle. You can live your life the way that you want so don’t criticise others for not living the same way as you. Besides, meeting different people is what gives life variety, so welcome everybody in.

Be polite

Rudeness is exactly that – just plain rude. Just like being kind, being polite can go a long way. You’ll make better first impressions and generally seem like a nice person to be around. Say hello to the customer service assistant behind the till and remember your pleases and thank yous.

Be respectful

Respect other people’s emotions, lifestyle, outfits, make-up, whatever they are doing that let’s them express themselves. Here comes that old-age saying; treat others how you would want to be treated. And of course, respect somebody’s possessions, privacy and personal space!

Be yourself

The only time I really feel confident is when I am being myself. I had and still have a few close friends who make me feel comfortable enough to just be me, rather than be a knock-off version of them. Being comfortable in your own skin makes you happier, friendlier and everything in between. It makes you cool.


  1. Suma

    You know what I love about this? It sounds falsely positive and flowery when you read the main subtitles, but it’s all true. These days, I’m finding that most people appreciate a good personality. Sure, fashion and media still put pressure on people to look, dress, and act a certain way, but I absolutely love the fact that people aren’t afraid to be themselves. Embracing your weirdness is such an awesome movement and it gives me hope that this world, as dark as it may be at times, might possibly be heading in a good direction.

  2. Becca @ The Married Cat Lady

    Great bits of wisdom you have here. I remember those days very clearly. My favorite is about being weird. I am a proud weirdo, but it took a long time to really let it out and embrace it.

    Your post actually caught my attention because I feel like it’s very similar to my post from last week, about my thirteen year-old self. Feel free to check it out. πŸ™‚

  3. Quinn

    I’m weird but I keep my weirdness contained, so only a few people really know the depths of it! I think in person I can come across as a bit distant, but that’s only because it takes me a while to relax and feel comfortable around new people. I was never “cool” in school but I was one of those people who are friends with everybody, which in hindsight was pretty lucky.

    I think your rules for being cool are good rules for life. Everyone could take a leaf out of this book!

    1. Lauren

      I can’t even imagine being one of those people who is friends with everybody, I’m so jealous!
      And thank you! I’m sure those who know your weirdness appreciate it πŸ™‚

  4. Nana

    Oohh this was really interesting to read because I’ve never experienced anything like that. XD I’m sorry to hear you’ve been preyed upon by the ‘mean girls’ at your school. :/ Personally I’ve always known that I’m the weird one / the odd one out, and I never tried to blend in at school haha. Maybe I got lucky and found friends that were on the same level of weird as me so I had a decent experience in school in terms of friendships.

    I really love your ways of being cool, and I have to agree with every point that you wrote. πŸ™‚ β™‘

    1. Lauren

      That’s awesome – I’m so jealous! I wish I had learned years and years ago how just being myself was enough and that it didn’t matter if I was part of the ‘cool’ groups!
      Glad you liked the post! πŸ™‚

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