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It’s Okay To Not Do Anything When You’re Healing

Anxiety, depression and stress can leave you feeling like the day is over before it has even properly begun. You can feel like there is a million and one things that you should be doing, but there is simply no energy there to do them, and that is okay.

Feeling unproductive, exhausted and unmotivated is perfectly fine. There is nothing to be ashamed about there. Those feelings can lead to binge-watching or binge-eating or binge-sleeping, and all of those things are perfectly fine too. If you’re dealing with lack of self-worth or self-confidence, you’re owed days like that.

Having times like this can make you feel like you are never going to make it, whether that means you are never going to make it in a professional stance or generally get through the next week. Try to remember that small tasks count. Even if all you do today is drink a cup of tea or change your socks, it doesn’t matter. You probably haven’t given yourself enough credit for doing the small things, because those small things are victories too. Whether you’ve sent a text to your mum or updated your CV with your new address – both those things are important and count towards your future and your healing. If I could, I’d give you a sticker for each small thing you accomplish. I sure would like a sticker.

Big things tend to be accomplished in small steps. Creating something awesome, whether that is a top-notch blog or the first few chapters of an epic novel, tends to not happen overnight or in a day. Things take time, just like humans. We take time to grow, mature and heal.

The world gives off the impression that if you don’t do something today then you’ll never do it. We all must rush around, chasing our dreams or money, or both ideally, before it’s too late. But when is too late? Who says there is a time limit on doing cool stuff? Time didn’t stop this awesome 90 year old lady who graduated college recently, so why should it stop you?

Just because you’re not accomplishing your dreams today doesn’t mean they’ll never happen. They will happen when you decide to work for them. They will happen when you are better. You can start to get things in motion of achieving whatever you want to achieve at any time.

Depression, anxiety and stress can literally suck the life out of you. Your motivation, energy and general lust for life diminishes, so do not punish yourself for not getting back on your feet in an instant – it’s gonna take some time to get back into the swing of things.

It’s not a race, and everybody gets better in their own time. Trust me when I say that the more small steps you take, the better you’ll feel about yourself, which will only lead to more small steps being made. And what do lots of small steps make? A really nice walk to wherever you wanna go.

Let’s take small steps together to somethingย awesome.


  1. Julie black

    This is absolutely beautiful and just what I needed to see. I’ve been on a stress-leave from work (my father passed away and my youngest child was diagnosed with autism). Life has been a roller-coaster and I’m burned out. I’ve been feeling so guilty that I’m not doing more, even though I’ve started a blog, and keep the house and kids going. Thank-you

    1. Lauren

      I’m so sorry to hear that, you must be going through such a stressful time. So glad that this has helped you feel at least a little bit better x

  2. Janet

    Thank you for posting this – I was in such a down mood this morning, until I read this – it describes how I’ve been feeling – I’m glad it’s Ok not to do much – I simply lately have not had the energy — GOD Bless you – again thanks so much !!!!

    1. lauren92

      Aw I’m so glad that it has helped you feel a little less alone! Hope you are doing good and letting yourself have some time to feel better ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Benjamin Ngiam

    Let’s take the small steps together champ ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Indeed, it takes despair to hit us before we know, understand and appreciate joy. But whatever it is, knowing that we aren’t alone out in this big big world is definitely something that we can lean onto for reassurance.

    I don’t know how you were feeling when you wrote this (Not horrible, I hope) but if you are still feeling down right now for your own reasons? Hope this brings a smile to your face:

    “Never regret something that once made you smile.”
    – Through personal experience, I can tell you, this quote empowered me then, by reminding me to not regret the outcome and continue to live on with the beautiful memories that I’ve got from that “Something”. Or rather, “Someone”. So if you (Or you, readers of this blog) are feeling the effects of losing someone or something, don’t forget that you’ve had some awesome times together!

    And of course, never forget that… You are somebody’s reason to smile!
    I gotta share this one cause as you’ve said, the little things do count! Hopefully, once a reader of yours, who’s feeling down reads your post, he/she would feel better and perhaps feel even better after reading this comment hah!

    Cheers for the awesome post and site bud ๐Ÿ™‚

    Your pal,

    1. lauren92

      Thank you for the kind words!
      My articles about mental health are not only for me (to relieve some stress and upset) but to also help somebody else out there who is feeling the same way, so that they do not feel alone in their emotions or mental state. Just to help one person would be lovely! ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Benjamin Ngiam

        Indeed and that’s the kind of spirit we need from everyone if we are to create a world of positivity ๐Ÿ™‚
        Keep up the good work and don’t stop believing!

        Your pal,

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