If you like the sound of Looking For Alaska, or have liked any of John Green’s writing, you’ll love All The Bright Places by Jennifer Niven. It’s a beautifully written Young Adult novel that is both romantic and funny, all the while telling some brutally honest truths about mental health stigma and suicide. I devoured the book in 3 days (thanks to my brother for getting it for me as a Christmas gift) and am left wanting to dive straight in to Jennifer Niven’s other book, Holding Up The Universe (which is waiting for me at home).
Here’s a few memorable quotes from the novel:
“Sorry wastes time. You have to live your life like you’ll never be sorry. It’s easier just to do the right thing from the start so there’s nothing to apologise for.”
This quote particularly struck a chord with me as I have been thinking about saying ‘sorry’ less and instead saying ‘thank you’. I no longer want to be apologising for things that don’t need apologies (for example; ‘sorry I’m not wearing make-up’) because then it only makes me seem guilty and loses the meaning of the word ‘sorry’ in the first place. And of course, apologising when you know you have done your best/ done the right thing is a waste of an apology as well.
“I knew life well enough to know you can’t count on things staying around or standing still, no matter how much you want them to.”
I love this quote because it makes me think about appreciating what I have and making a mental note of all those little moments in life that I take for granted. It also makes me hopeful for better changes to come.
“Sometimes things feel true to us even if they’re not.”
With depression, anxiety and suicidal thinking, I have thought a lot of negative things about myself. These thoughts can feel like the most logical that you’ve ever had, even though they don’t come from you, but your mental illness instead. It’s important to remember not to believe everything that you think.
“We do not remember days, we remember moments.”
Do you ever have the feeling when you are doing something or you are with someone that you are going to remember that very moment? I feel like that sometimes and sure enough, those are the times that I remember the clearest.
“The thing I realise is, that it’s not what you take, it’s what you leave.”
This doesn’t necessarily have to be about death – instead I look at it as when you meet people. If you meet somebody and leave them feeling good, then they will remember you fondly. If all you do is take from others, then they’ll remember that too.
“The great thing about this life of ours is that you can be someone different to everybody.”
We are all as individual as our fingerprints – there’s nobody quite like us. You’ll never be truly happy trying to be somebody else other than yourself.
“There is good in this world, if you look hard enough for it.”
There’s also a lot of good that you can put into the world – every little act of kindness makes a difference.
Do you have any favourite quotes from this book, or any other book? Do you have any book recommendations for me? Leave a comment below!