My SO has just started a new job, with the awesome title of Social Media And Content Developer. I’m very jealous and very proud of him, but his absence is already freaking me out a bit.
He leaves at 8am, returns at 6pm. That’s 10 hours, x5 days a week that I’ll be on my own. 50 hours feels like a lot of alone time to fill.
You may know that I am trying to find work. Besides financial security and making my own money, the reason that I want a job is to be part of a team again. I want to feel like part of something, that I’m needed, and to also have the opportunity to meet new people. I didn’t realise how much I would miss that part of working.
I’ve had struggles with fitting in before. I’ve had and still have some very close and dear friends, but I’ve never really had a group of them. I’ve always wanted to fit in to a group, imagining it would be like a modern day version of Friends or maybe How I Met Your Mother.
You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.
– Brene Brown
Currently I am reading The Girls – a book that has already surprised me. I try not to read too many reviews before buying books – I like to read the simple blurb and assume what it might be about, pleased later on when the story takes me in a different direction to where I thought it was going.
So, I knew nothing about this book except that the cover was gorgeous and it was only a fiver at Tesco (yes really! A fiver for a hardback book!). When I read that the story was about a cult, I said to myself; “Hmm maybe I could join a cult…?” That’s how much I want to belong somewhere – I’m even wondering about the possibility of a cult. Are there even cults in Edinburgh? Are cults a thing in the UK? I have no idea (and don’t worry, I won’t actually join one).
Why do I feel this need to belong anyway? Well, because it’s an innate need that we all share. All of us want to belong somewhere, with someone or with several people. It’s just like how those of us who are lucky enough to have loving families feel a sense of home when we are with them. That feeling of home is a feeling of belonging.
By building relations we create a source of love and personal pride and belonging that makes living in a chaotic world easier.
– Susan Lieberman
I realised recently that the only community I belong to at the moment is the blogging community. Last year – the toughest year of my life hands down – was the year that I really got into connecting with other bloggers and generally other people through the magic of the internet, or more specifically, Twitter. I am incredibly thankful for meeting and becoming friends with some awesome people through this community. They’ve been supportive and inspirational, and you can’t get much better than that.
Being part of a community is good for your mental health. It provides a source of fun, support, friendship, opportunity and new experiences. It’s a huge part of life, finding those people that you want to spend your time with. I’m very lucky to have the people I already have now; my SO, my family, my friends (both online and offline!), but I am very much looking forward to joining a new team of people, contributing to a joint project and working towards something brilliant.