How much of your life do you plan out? How much of your life can you plan out?
Plans are great as they can make you feel like you have finally worked out a way of achieving something that you want or need. They can be the first step to a solution for a problem or just a way of keeping your time organised and your tasks efficient.
I’ve tried lots of different things and lived in different places. I’ve chosen careers and chosen to quit. I’ve chosen to study and not pursued anything related to those studies.
I used to think that this meant I had wasted my time. Giving years of my life to something and then giving it up seemed like such a failure to me, especially when I looked around and saw that everybody else seemed to have everything figured out.
If you are not doing what you love, you are wasting your time.
– Billy Joel
Recently I have realised that that kind of thinking is purely self-destructive. Not only is comparing myself to others completely illogical, but thinking that anything substantial in my life was a complete waste of my time is bonkers.
Though I may not be using that qualification or still dating that guy or living in that place, I have learned something from each experience. I’ve gained know-how about essay writing, realised what I want from a relationship, and met some great people. These things come from experience.
Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.
– Auguste Rodin
If I had ever been able to plan my life out in absolute detail and stuck with it no matter what, I’d be living a very different life. I wouldn’t have met my SO, I wouldn’t be living in Edinburgh, and generally I wouldn’t have lived through a lot of the experiences that I like to look back on.
Each person has their own journey – they learn what they like, who they like, where they like and why. That learning is going to include plenty of different experiences, plenty of things that one tries to see what it’s like. And how is trying failing?
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
– Thomas A. Edison
As long as we keep pursuing a career that means something to us, whether we know what it is or not, then we are not failing. As long as we re-write our plans when they aren’t making us happy anymore, then we are not failing. As long as we can proudly say that we want to keep trying, then we are not failing.