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When Life Seems To Be Falling Apart Around You

Not to be a negative Nelly but a lot of things can go wrong in your life. Sometimes the universe decides to see what you’re made of by making a lot of things go wrong at the same time, or by making an extra large hurdle for you to jump over. These times can make you feel like giving up, like you’ve got to start over again, that you’re a failure.

Even though it’s your life, sometimes it feels like you’ve got no control over it anymore. This can lead to a lot of hiding under the covers, waiting for what seems to be inevitable to knock at your door.

Believe it or not, there are some good things that can come out of this time of uncertainty. Here’s just a few things that you need to keep in mind:

Remember what you do have. At some point in your life you wished you had something that you have now. It could be your lovely SO, your apartment, your best friend, your job – there’s something that you have now that you didn’t have before. Even if everything else seems to be falling apart around you, that’s something that you can feel good about. You’ve come far from what you once were.

It won’t last forever. Things may feel sucky at the moment but you will figure it out. It probably won’t happen in a inspirational montage of motivational scenes like in the movies – it’s more likely to happen in small steps. But it will happen and you will get everything sorted one way or another. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends or family – they’d be more than happy to give you a helping hand.

There are two ways to look at these times in life: one is that you can let the worry consume you, in which case you may as well give up now. The other, more glittery way, is to look at this as an opportunity for change. Everybody has something that they want to change in their lives because we are creatures of want. Look at the uncertainty in front of you and use it as a boost to make some brilliant changes to your life. I know that it is super scary, but it’s do-able as long as you look at the small steps you can make and have a bit of a plan in place.

A wise lady once said to me that the best lives lived are lived by the ones who dared. She said this to me just as I was about to leave for Edinburgh, and I’m quite confident that she was right. Life is full of problems and instability, and I think that those who dare to put themselves out of their comfort zone more than others will face this instability a lot more. This can be a good thing – it can lead to a lot more adventures, a lot more experiences, and a lot more life satisfaction. It just takes a bit of courage.


  1. Jenny Mullinder

    Oh you just spoke to me three months ago <3
    My latest blog post is almost inspired by/responding to this – having (mostly) come out the other side. Is it ok if I link through to you? 🙂
    Once again thank you for writing my brain out onto the page!

    1. Lauren

      Aw thank you! That’s the best kind of comment to get on a blog post! Glad that you have made it to the other side. And yes of course, link me up!

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